Mister Fix-it

While taking the girls to school this morning I had the radio on and could not help but listen to the topic at hand.  What was that topic?  Let me tell you, it was a topic that has plagued male/female relationships since the dawn of our species!  Yes, it was about communication and the differences between men and women.  They were illustrating how a woman disliked her co-worker but was upset with her husband and thought her marriage was doomed because he seemed disinterested in her work issues and only commented on what she should do.  Luckily, instead of making a joke of it they merely pointed out that men are fixers!  That is what we do and what attracts women to us.

You see, it is not that we do not care what you are saying.  Merely, we are genetically predisposed to trying to fix the problems of our family.  So, we are basically incapable of just sitting, listening, and empathizing.  Most times we can get it together and realize that you need just that and fight our urge to throw out a solution.

However, one thing that women have to realize is that when you are hurting, we are hurting.  So, if someone is hurting your feelings we want to fix that and make you feel better.  Plus, we know that we cannot go to your work and go throw this woman through a wall.  Therefore, we try to give you tips on how we would solve the situation because we love you and don't want to see you upset.  I know, it is crazy, and probably more than annoying because all you want is someone to listen and let you get it out; but at the same time we are hurting because you are hurting and we want to see you feel better.

I know, it is one hell of an emotional catch 22!  But, this is where we find ourselves on a regular basis.  So, all we can do is hope that women will realize that when we try to stick our noses in and offer up our solutions the best of intentions are there!  We annoy you because we love you and, quite frankly, are incapable of becoming your girlfriends as well as husbands!  So, take the good with the bad and love us for what we are.  The radio DJ made a good statement and said that as long as we are not the type of guy that is out there selling your kids toys for drugs and we are genuinely good men, then don't hold it against us; look for our good and why you are in love with us!  All we want is to see you happy and taken care of.  It is how we show our love for you!